The Prepared Adult: Some thoughts on the “prepared parent”

“The training of the teacher who is to help life is something far more than the learning of ideas.  It includes the training of character; it is a preparation of the spirit.” Maria Montessori Montessori developed her now world-famous educational method for use in schools, so when she was writing she directed her words towards…

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Why I don’t discipline my daughter

For a little while now I’ve wanted to write about why I hate the word “discipline” when used in reference to something parents to do their children, and why I am increasingly rejecting the notion that as parents we need to discipline our children at all. And yes, I’m even including “gentle discipline” in this…

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Developing Empathy

Empathy can be defined as recognising and understanding the feelings of others. From an evolutionary perspective, empathy is crucial and a valuable tool without which otherwise we would not have been so successful as a species. We are biologically wired for connection with others, and empathy facilitates this connection. Below are some thoughts on how…

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Unconditional Positive Regard

(This post was originally written for Instagram, but it received such a positive response that I wanted to share it here too.) I believe that one of the most important gifts we can give our children is that of unconditional positive regard. Coined by the psychologist Carl Rogers, it means that when we’re interacting with…

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The Peaceful Home: Inner Work and Parenting Triggers

Last month in The Peaceful Home we were exploring inner work, mindset, and mindfulness for parents. As the days grow darker and nights get longer, I am feeling a real sense of drawing inwards, of craving space for reflection and meditation, carving out time to read, plan, and ponder, and really focus on my own…

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How do I talk to my kids about Santa?

“What are you doing about Santa?” is a question that comes up a lot in peaceful parenting groups. If you decide to “do” Santa / Father Christmas, it is still possible to do so in a gentle way! For our family, Santa is a fun fictional character who Frida loves to talk about (like, loves.…

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“How was your day?” Reconnecting with your child after daycare or school

If you have a child in school or daycare, I’m sure you’re eager to find out how your little love has spent their day. Although it can be so tempting to jump in with questions as soon as you see your child – What did you do? Did you have fun? – it can be less…

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Essay: Why feminism can no longer ignore parenting + how peaceful parenting can effect radical social change

The UK Government defines domestic violence as “any incident of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over… The abuse can encompass, but is not limited to: psychological, physical, sexual, financial, and emotional abuse.” Did you notice that the definition stresses that domestic violence is between those aged 16 or…

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The Peaceful Home: Communicating our needs as adults

In The Peaceful Home this month we have been focusing on calm communication. I chose communication as our first topic because communication is the foundation of everything we do as parents. Calm, empathetic communication has the power to connect us not only to the children and adults who share our lives, but to treat ourselves…

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